^^ When H wonders how I can carry on with my life, especially one time when he asked me to get out of it so he could give relationship with OW (ie massage girl) a shot, I tell him exactly what you posted.
we will either be together or we won't. No use worrying about anything else lol.
I will second Acc. Do what you want and what will not make you crazy. Do not wonder or worry about W's motives, who cares? (Okay, well you do, I know ).
But if it will upset you greatly to find out her motive was all about her, which it very well could be, then you have to think if it is worth it to you.
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