I think I would recognize his efforts only on the propane right now. You've already stated previously that you were working on a job. I think I'd leave that subject alone. He knows that jobs are few and far between and that they take time. Stick to the propane thanks and leave it at that.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I think job is right. You don't need to rationalize or offer an excuse for not being employed yet... reality is it's own defense on that count.
me-35 WAS-37 T-16 1/2 Son-14 (HF Aspergers) BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013 "Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."
I think job is right. You don't need to rationalize or offer an excuse for not being employed yet... reality is it's own defense on that count.
By just saying thanks for the propane and leaving it at that you are acknowledging the positive and leaving him to sort out the rest of it in his head.
me-35 WAS-37 T-16 1/2 Son-14 (HF Aspergers) BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013 "Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."
me-35 WAS-37 T-16 1/2 Son-14 (HF Aspergers) BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013 "Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."
I cannot believe this is needed for a front desk position/receptionist! @@
I now have to transfer it to my notebook, and then try and print it out. I am still waiting to hear back from a place fairly nearby. I'm hoping to get that one, and proceed with school.
I am feeling REALLY pressured on this.
Part of me wants to say something about his spending and activities, but I know it will not bring us closer. It is getting old that he keeps mentioning the job.
I NEVER pressured him when he lost his job 3 times in the recent past. I just trusted him and the situation.
I so want to say...as you have experienced in the recent past, jobs are a process and can be slow. Your support and patience is appreciated as I supported you fully.
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
You are lucky that all you had to provide was a cover letter and a resume. This has been the norm for many years in the private sector. Federal Government is a bit different...but you still have to have resumes, examples of your work, etc., at least where I worked at.
No matter what you say to your h about his past jobs, it will make no difference. He is living in the here and now and wants you to find a job so that it will lighten his load and pressure a bit. Whenever he brings up about he job, just let it roll off your back. He knows you'll tell him when you get one. Besides, if you do find one, they will withhold at least one pay period before you actually receive a check...so I wouldn't tell him too much until you have your first check in hand.
You are dealing w/an entirely different situation here called crazy making and what may have been done or said in the past, doesn't matter now because it's all "live" now and no Memorex to be replayed over and over again. He wants more money to do things and the only way to do that is to have you get a job. We see this all over the forum where MLCers are driving the LBS crazy about being stay at home moms and they need to get a job, etc.
Let it go for now. Why? Because no matter what you say, he'll think you are deliberately dragging your feet about it. The best thing to do is sit quietly and just let Mother Nature take her course.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Well he contacted me due to the propane co. not being able to engage the system.
Apparently they called him and told them they couldn't do anything until they can prove the system is working.
I did discuss me baking some things for Christmas and sending with cards. I also let him know I have two poss. job prospects. Also , completed the cover letter and resume.
He sounded positive and friendly. I thanked him for calling me and the propane. Then got off the phone.
I was very matter of fact, no stress or anxiety in my voice. I told him I knew he was stressed. When he was looking for a job, he kept me up to date every single step of the way. Never withheld anything and the same with the insurance and life insurance. So out of respect , I felt he deserved the same consideration.
Yes , I know he wants to play. I would rather he get it out of his system, the sooner the better. He has got to be feeling so conflicted, because I'm killing with kindness.
I'm not going to allow my anxiety to drive me further into an emotional state. It DOES make things very uncomfortable.
You know what's weird? I gave him the routing and account # so he could do the direct deposit, but he hasn't. He made a point of me going and getting the account and even had time to do it by this last paycheck. He set it up for daughter's acct. It was discussed at Thanksgiving.
Yet he has done nothing about mine. Curious and curiouser !
So I'm going to eat dinner, go to dancing, and work on the possible printing of the resume.
I feel better now that we have talked.
Formerly Workinprogress H :55 M :over 29 yrs. Together : 33 D : college D : adult BD and left : May 2013 Separated Experimenting/Replay
I hope that they get your propane situation taken care of and soon. The nights are cold, but the days will be pretty good until Friday and next week we will have some flakes at least two different days...no accumulation. Thank goodness!
BTW, I'm poster 112...time for a new thread.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
