Well I agree with Melissa. I have been M to a passive man. I hated it. I tested him by getting meaner. I wanted him to stand up to me and show that he could make a decision! I wanted him to act like a man and initiate something other than sex! I wanted him to show some backbone and spunk. His passivity and my reaction to it ruined our MR. Of course, it wasn't just the passivity, but that was the beginning of our breakdown. I believe women lose respect for a passive H. It may help you to read hold on to your nuts.
When we were first M, he would sit up and watch TV instead of sleeping in bed with me (after we had sex, of course). I resented it a lot. Over the years, I told him many times how important it was to me that he go to bed with me, but he would not compromise. I'm glad you are willing to change your behavior toward the video game while your M is still young.
I am still M to the same man, but things got really bad before they got better. Don't give up hope b/c your M can be saved. The night you came home after being out with your buddies is a good example of the type of attitude to show with her. Cool and unruffled by what she says or does.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
