Thanks for the advice. Because I didn't know what to do/say on Friday about my H moving out, I just didn't do or say anything....and I think that is what was the right thing to do!
I just STFU....and left him alone. Then, I got on here, later, and saw that your advice was to do that. Lol. Anyway, it worked.
Friday evening we (H and I) had to go to my S15's football game, and we ended up having a good time there and back, despite the drama from that morning.
Then, on Saturday, I went my parents' for Thanksgiving, and while H didn't go....he checked in via text a few times.
It was kinda weird. He kept letting me know where he was and what he was doing and who he was with. Then, when the kids and I got back, H came out to the car to help unload it and ask how everything went. And, we had a really good evening watching TV and hanging out. He was much more like his "old" self than in a long time. He even bought Christmas lights and told the kids he'd help them put them up this week.
Last year, he didn't even want to decorate for Christmas.
Yesterday was also good. H ran some errands with S12 and then, spent time with the rest of us before work.
H mentioned a few times this weekend that he was really "happy" and "having a good day."
He put most of his clothes back in the closet on Sunday...and I didn't say a word!
He did tell me once that we needed to move forward...but not jump forward. He said he feels like I'm trying to "jump" forward....but he just told me Friday that I'm not moving forward enough. UGH. Stupid MLC crap.
So, today, I'm working on NOT contacting him...just giving him some space.
Ours isn't so much a roller coaster as a straight up, straight down, straight up, straight down....there are NO gentle hills on my ride. Bleh.
What I'm worried about is this: H was off from work on Thurs, Fri, and Sat nights.....and we had really, really good days when he was off. He tells everyone how much he loves his job...but he doesn't. It makes him miserable, tired, and grumpy. So, I'm afraid that now that he's back to work, the bad attitude is going to resurface. So, I keep telling myself..."no expectations"...
And, Patient Man....if you happen to read this, Thursday, when H was being such a jerk...I kept telling myself this, "H does NOT affect my moods anymore....good or bad. He has no control over my emotions anymore. I am going to enjoy the holiday with my kids. Got it? GOT IT!"
Hope everyone else had an ok Thanksgiving. I'll catch up on everyone's sitches today. I've been away from the computer for most of the weekend.
