Originally Posted By: Lll54
Do I sit him down and talk to him about it?


Has anything happened in the past few months to give you the idea that talking to him about what is going on would work? Every time you do, he either says something that upsets, you get angry and lash out at him, or both.

Originally Posted By: Lll54
I'm just really puzzled as to what to do because he isn't leaving, he isn't talking about leaving (seriously). I think he jokes about it because he is a control freak and likes me under his power. But I'm lost as to how to react. What's right and what's wrong.


I've been telling you for weeks: leave him alone. Give him space to deal with what he's going through. If you need to work on something, start with yourself. You keep looking for the "right" thing to say or do to make things better or make him happy, and that's not how life works.

Originally Posted By: Lll54
I'm trying not to let it affect me and just keep on keepin on but I can't help but wonder what I should be saying or doing in these circumstances.


Go find another copy of The Divorce Remedy. SAY NOTHING. If he's seriously considering leaving you, then all you are doing right now by piling guilt and pressure on him is solidifying his resolve to leave.


Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."