on the edge pt 2

[dingo]

I do want to take a moment to thank everyone again for their replies. Your advice has been outstanding.

I had almost made it 24 hrs without talking to my wife but she called me at the office this morning after I didn't answer my cell phone. She wanted to go over her plan for no contact with the om with me. I let her tell me but gave no opinion on it. I just said something along the lines of 'I am sure you will find something that works for you.' She then said that she knows she needs to stop and really wants to stop for us but she is having a very hard time with it. This is a pretty big change from yesterday when she was adamant that he was right for her and that we had no chance. She also said that her inability to stop is what makes her think that she should be with him. I just listened (though I have heard all of this before) and thanked her for letting me know how she feels.

Then she told me that she wanted to come to the house tonight to pack some things and maybe watch a movie together and then stay there tonight. I told her that we could discuss it more later but I thought she should probably stay at the apartment tonight. I don't know if it's just what I want to believe but it did seem like there was some genuine missing me.

I ended the conversation by telling her that once she is moved out, and as long as there is contact with the om- whether it's out of work or even while they are just working together- that she cannot come back to the house. She seemed taken aback a little and asked about our talk about having her come to dinner a few nights per week.

So - I have committed to myself that to whatever end, I need to have limited to no contact with her. Now I just have to be strong and do it,