willbewell, Now is not the right time to ask your h to go to retrouville, Retrouville is for couples who are piecing or very close to piecing. Your h is no where near that stage since you stated he wants no responsibility at the home, etc.
If you were to approach him and ask him about attending, I doubt very seriously that he would want to go or he would go and then say it was a bunch of BS. Thus, resentment would be build because he would feel you are trying to fix him and the relationship and he's not ready for that right now.
Unfortunately, retrouville is for rebuilding marriages, i.e., trust, loyalty, communication, etc. If I recall, this is for couples and I don't think singles are encouraged to attend. My advice is to wait until you are sure you are piecing and he's more in tune w/the family and home. That way, both of you will get something out of it and can begin building a new relationship.
Just my two cents.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
