Hang in there JF..it will get better...I promise

As far as her spew and attempted button pushing ??

A lot of what you will see from her, is what we call projection.

She is projecting a lot of crap onto you, and trying to get you to own a lot of things that simply are not true.

She is trying to throw you with that....

She has already said all of that...right ??

You aren't dealing with any "new" information.....right ??

So why does it change anything ???

It doesn't. Only YOUR reaction to it has changed, so she has to dig deeper to un-root the connection that she feels to you.

Something I have always said, is that the MLCer uses their anger, like the Space Shuttle uses those booster tanks....

The booster tanks are filled with extra fuel to help propel the shuttle. Once it reaches cruising altitude, the booster tanks are discarded...

It takes more fuel to launch, than it does to cruise....

Now your Wife is a long way from cruising, because YOU HAVE CHANGED THE DYNAMIC IN HER HEAD....

She is looking for fuel to push away from you...

She is feeling a lot of feelings that she is trying to convince herself aren't there anymore. Whatever you are doing....is working.

I always would imagine the old MTV...when they played music...with the rocket launch, and it helped remind me of what I was dealing with....

Stay YOUR course right now.....

Do not let anything take you off of it JF....

Get out of her head, and stay in yours. It is a much safer place for now....