My gut feeling is it's not the right time to ask H. A few things we have earned is that MLC takes time and then more time and then some more.
H could say yes of course however given his state of mind right now he might just become more resentful .
Idk - I can explain it very well but it just doesn't seem like right timing ... Only you know what you need to do though.
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TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home