W needs more space to sort out all her feelings, which I'm sure is the case right now with her lashing out. With us living together, still currently sharing the bed, sharing parenting duties and going to functions as a family, giving space is tough. Question is: How can I properly provide W with space to walk her path while we are still walking and talking like a couple?
Some may disagree, but I think those of us with "In home" MLC'ers have a better chance of R. Why? Because we never totally lose connection, and we don't learn that we are fine on our own.
But getting back to your question, here's what you do: Go dim. Do not initiate conversations unless absolutely necessary. Do not hang out in the same room together. Do your own thing, and encourage her to do hers.
You'll know if she is receptive to interacting with you. If she is, go with it. If she's not, no problem, you're busy with your own life and happy with it.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
