I guess it was not very Alpha to ask if i could hold her. I will remember this. Go big or go home.
I went out with my buddies Friday night. W already had plans so I didn't even bother. We went out, had a great time, I had one of my friends take my phone at the end of the night so that there would be no unnecessary contact. (this worked wonders).
I ended up staying over at his house until about 6 PM on Saturday just watching football. W had daughter over at her moms house and didn't get home until around 9 PM.
And this is where this little tidbit came in.
Originally Posted By: SM34
Take not of this ^^^^
From the mouth of a woman!!
Be assertive, take charge, lead the way. If she responds negatively to affection you give out, brush it of as 'oh its your loss' type of thing. Dont say anything or ask why or how it makes her feel. Just go about your business as if you are the coolest person ever.
In fact, you are so cool and sexy and manly that it HURTS. that's the frame of mind you need right now.
Stop asking any questions about anything at all. Practice that. Be conscious if it. Stop yourself when you do it!!
When I got home, I read this advice from SM34. I'll admit that I was already in a really good state of mind from having fun this weekend, but this prepared me for when W got home.
I had a nice big smile on my face. Gave D a big hug and told her how much I loved her. W was busy doing something in the other room, getting more stuff to move downstairs I assume. I didn't even bother going to her. I didn't ask her if she needed help, didn't ask her how things went.
After about 10 minutes W came into the living room and kind of just stood next to me. (kind of looked at me like she wanted to talk) So just said hey! whats up! (cool and collected like there wasn't a thing wrong in the world)
She asked if I had noticed that she moved her things downstairs. And if I was ok. I told her that i knew it was coming, and that i'll survive. (she seemed really upset by this) She asked if I wanted to talk. I said sure, what would you like to talk about?
She asked me about my night, told her I had a great time, and that my buddies wanted me to go out again, but I told them that i was short on cash, and i really wanted to get home so i could see my D. (I wish you could have seen the look on her face. It was a CRINGE. this was the first time that I have not included her as being missed)
She was on the verge of tears, i just sat and smiled to her. She told me that she felt like we haven't seen each other all weekend. (apparently this bothered her???) And was wondering if we could set some time aside so that we could do something together. ( I wasn't sure how to answer this, I didn't want to turn her down, but I didn't want to seem to eager.) I just said. "i'm sure we could figure something out"
This is the first time she has asked me to do ANYTHING, or even seemed like she remotely cared about doing anything together.
I was really in a great state of mind. I felt like I was the one being pursued.
She eventually started crying and told me how hard this was for her and that she doesn't know what to do. (I validated this)
Not trying to say I'm making progress, but it was definitely a different set of behaviors than what I've seen over the past two months.
