I don't say this lightly because I know it's EXTREMELY difficult, but I say this because you need to.. Let her go! She needs to understand that while you love and care for her you won't stand for an affair of ANY kind. Self respect and dignity are very important to maintain and that is about YOU and has NOTHING to do with "winning" her back. Myself nor anyone else here can tell you want to do, but it might just do you some good to let her go. Is she confused yes, but that's not your battle to "fix" for her, you don't have the power to fix her.
LET HER GO... Love yourself too! You are worth it, no matter how many mistakes you've made. As far as spending time with her or text and phone calls i'd stick to my guns, as long as OM is in picture you aren't... Lastly, Pray and ask God for direction and guidance. Don't be cold, be clear and concise, speak with conviction and authority. Be in control and confident... I'm pulling for you. NO MORE self pity!
