I think I can stop this.... can you help me?

[Fitz]

I had a good day today as far as trying to get the DBing back on track. I had a family party this morning, it had been planned for about 2 months so W was originally invited. I hadn't mentioned anything about it to her, not sure if she wanted to go or not. She ended up coming. It was about a 45 minute ride, we didn't talk much, I didn't initiate much conversation with her but was polite if she did.

At the party with my family things were good. At one point W asked me if they all know what is going on with us. I asked her why, does she feel like anyone is treating her any different? She said no but she just wanted to know. I told her that I talk to my sister sometimes, just to have someone to talk to. W said yes, she remembered that my sister had asked me if I could ever fall back in love with W and I had told her no. I asked her where she got that from, I had never said that. I just said that my sister is very non-judgemental, and she understands that relationships are tough and people have hard times every now and then. With that W gave me a hug.

When we arrived home we cleaned the house and just kind of hung around.

I felt more comfortable today not bringing up our marriage. I felt comfortable not asking her who called or texted her when her phone rang. I remembered what was written above, that what I have done in the past hasn't worked, so just stop.

I think that I am getting through the denial phase of thinking that this can't really be happening and will just go away. I was reading some other threads today and the one thing that I had seen people writing over and over again was to never underestimate the seriousness of a WAS. I get that now, and I won't.