on the edge pt 2

[dingo]

Well - the separation wasn't final until today. We went into the holiday weekend hoping that a good weekend together might help the situation a little. It clearly didnt. I won't be spending any more time with in laws soon. I think they do know now that she is moving out but did not before.

She says so many conflicting things that it's impossible to keep track. She's said everything from I'm leaving you for the om to I just hope that me moving out doesn't doom our marriage. She has committed to no contact a few times and has always reverted. She has also seen him everyday at work so no contact really isnt, even when they arent talking outside of work. She says she misses him and wants to hear his voice and has moments of weakness. Frankly i think its all excuses.

I think she is hoping that being away from me will make her miss me and she will really realize what she is giving up. She also starts a new job in 2 weeks so that could help if she can put forth some real effort to stay away.

She has suggested that we meet up for dinner a few times a week or get coffee in the morning. She wants to spend Christmas together but not with each others families. She also wants to come decorate "our" house. I haven't spoken with her since this mmorning. Do you recommend zero contact with her? If she calls or texts do i not respond?