Not much to update. Continue to GAL- awesome Santa race with D today lmao!! I invited H but he said no then wished he would have gone (where is the eye roll-y icon??)
But...while I was gone he did a TON of stuff around the house (I mean a LOT) first time in forever.

He was gone by the time we got home, but left me a note about all the little jobs and that he would decorate my porch next weekend. Also asked if it was okay he put a tree out front (I said of course, and suggested we cut it down from one of the neighbours to save money wink , just to lighten that statement)

I also told him how great having all the things done made me feel, and explained that I knew there were things I couldn't do on my own ( I have never asked him to do stuff) and learned to let them go. So when I don't have any expectation of these things being done, it's like Christmas!!! And I thanked him.

I also apologized for all the years I expected him to come home after a long commute and full time work and do stuff around the house, but now I have a huge understanding of all he did.

I used to expect him to do things and then be upset with the things he didn't do instead of grateful for the things he did.

Just my own growth realizations here.

Threw out last night how I thought this house would be too big for me after D is gone. H protested. I calmly said that if he wanted to keep house he could buy me out.

He said if I get job in city we could switch places. I replied that I didn't want his place and would find my own. That kind of stopped him a bit.

As per a convo we had last night, H still doesn't believe everything I say, although it was a hypothetical conversation. I said it didn't matter what he thought I believed and he couldn't know what I believed. Whatever. Whack a Spouse hammer....

That's it. Still plodding along. Happy December all!!