Pud, I know how you feel about trying to make sense of the nonsensical. It's a losing battle and yet we can't seem to help ourselves from trying.
I laughed at the situation with the dog. But you are right, that it seems like our H's aren't comfortable hearing positive affirmations from us. When we say things it's like they think that can't believe them and/or don't deserve them. If some random tramp down the food chain said it they would be eating it up and acting as if they deserve every bit of it. It's such a weird deal.
me-35 WAS-37 T-16 1/2 Son-14 (HF Aspergers) BD,ILYBINILWY,"I met my soulmate": Oct5,2013 "Letting go because I love him, holding on because I love him."