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So happy that you're able to make these changes Ambiv....you're doing great!! Your message was clear and to the point with an action needed ending. Now, if he doesn't respond, you can say you did it and do what you need.

Kids are hard. Whether they're 2 or 22.....you want to do what's best while allowing them to learn the hard lessons. I think implementing the DBing techniques with her will allow you to create change and her to do some much needed growth. I had another argument with S19 yesterday morning. He went so far to say that Im worse than his boss with nothing of benefit coming from me....that was awful. I walked away. I then went to his work to buy a new microwave, mine went belly up, and he asked "what's wrong?" and I said point blank that what he said was very hurtful and that it was wrong. Left it at that. Then last night he was mentioning he wouldn't tell his dad how he felt because he needs a dad. I said well, you have no problem in telling me. He said "you won't go anywhere" I said you can't use that as an excuse. I'm working my ass off to make a go of it and you have no problem in throwing me under the bus so if you have something to say to your dad you can tell him! I'm tired of getting S19's anger towards his dad directed at me.

Keep it up Ambiv:)