BTW, I've read codependent no more. Very helpful material. I understand the need to detach, but what a difficult process!!
You do not sound whiney. You have a tough situation. We're here to vent and lean on each other. Hugs!
Me:33 H:35 M: 12 years D-15 S-6 Bomb: 6-2013 OW: 11/2013 Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair Kids and I moved back in 12/2013 H moved out 2/2014