When I GAL, I will ask my H if he can watch the kids for me on a day he usually wouldn't. He almost always agrees to. Sometimes he asks why. When he does, I'm vague, but will also tell him if I feel he really wants to know.

This is out of character for me. Before the bomb, I was always home. Predictable. I was always going over our weekly schedules and managing the home. (Marriage became too business-like)

It is out of character for me to do things for myself that I enjoy. I have been connecting with friends and family. Spent more time at the library and window shopping. I love reading new magazines. I've been cooking/baking for fun again instead of just putting food on the table.

GAL feels really good right now. I think your situation is a lot harder to GAL without close friends/family around to help. Do you think your H would agree to watch S on shorter notice? You have a lot on your shoulders. I hope you can find some time to yourself to enjoy and take your mind off things.

Me:33 H:35
M: 12 years
D-15 S-6
Bomb: 6-2013
OW: 11/2013
Kids and I moved out: 11/2013 when he continued to lie about affair
Kids and I moved back in 12/2013
H moved out 2/2014