"I'm thinking my "something new" may be to ask W if she thinks it's normal for people to not care whether they check out of life, or feel like they have little reason to live. I'm hoping this might encourage her to seek help."
My H is the same way FY. He used to have so many interests and hobbies and was so active. Now he is a depressed lump. At least your W works and shows some interest in FB and her little Seinfeld group of friends (that cracks me up, I can just picture two Elaines dancing )
I really feel that antidepressants would help a lot of these MLCers get over this horrible anhedonia. They feel hopeless and helpless, and cannot raise a lick of excitement about anything. But they have to be willing to seek treatment. I'm on the fence about you asking your question. Might do more harm than good, but on the other hand, if her answer was no, it's not normal to not care whether they "check out," maybe it would encourage her to seek help. T2 might be a good one to ask, he has some psych experience.
Linda
Me 65, Ex 64 M 38 y 2 adult S, 4 G-Kids MLC 11/07 BD 12/09 D 3/14 Dating nice guy 7/14 Engaged to nice guy 12/17
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