Willbwell I hear you... It's incredible how quickly we seem to just not matter. And how easily it seems for them to make the break and make a feel like it was just awful being married to us. That this drastic change and determination to leave is vital for them to survive. That we are not worth the effort to try.

However,

I know you know this already- it is not about us. It is all about them right now. This is he hardest thing to do- to detach from what our life was because we have to ... Not because we want to. I do believe that with time the need changes into want.. You want to detach and not be affected by bad behaviour or bad feelings.

I love that you decided to hire someone to put up the lights! Don't let H put a damper on your joy and your life. I spent too many years being a spectator in my own life putting my joy on hold while H treated me badly. No more. You are Stronger than you think and I am here with you- we all are! What are you doing today?

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home