Good for you 2. From what I know about Retro, and that's only from their website and people here who have gone, it could be very helpful.

25yrsMLC went, I think AnotherStander attended, there are others I don't recall.

About validating, it doesn't mean you agree with your H, but that you accept his thoughts and feelings as his thoughts and feelings.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss