Julie, your sitch is a bit different due to the addiction issue so just tread lightly. I don't think anyone should purposefully try to be mysterious but in most sitches, you don't have to volunteer information about where you're going or what you're doing.

You do have it tough, as Melissa said.

Has your M always had this what seems unequal distribution of "off" time? Did your H do GAL things when you were home with the kids?

You don't sound whiney, we all need time to ourselves, to do what we want to do.

Did you get the Codependent No More book? What day is your meeting?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss