Hi all. I'm new here.

[melissag]

Hi 2T, sorry your W moved out. I know it $ucks. Ugh. It sounds like you did a good job with DBing. I'm impressed that you were shopping with her while she picked up a few things for her place - and still kept a smile. I still can't stand even thinking about H's place, let alone hearing about the details. (Though my H is apparently dumb enough not to figure this out, as he keeps talking about it.)

I am definitely still trying to figure out validating - I have definitely mastered the first phase, which of course is not defending or arguing or playing devil's advocate or fixing or suggesting. Which for me, I have to say, is no small feat. The problem is, now I feel like i Just say "uh huh" or something. Which I wonder if seems like maybe I'm just not paying attention. So yes, please do share what you have learned! I am sure I am not the only one who could benefit.

You know you can do this S thing - you have done it before. It is probably going to be awful for the first few weeks, but hopefully you will settle in soon. Hang in there.