Added these quotes from F's thread as I replied more about me.
Originally Posted By: Fartiltre

He then stated that he thinks she is sad because I have moved on, because I was doing good, had sorted out my life and so on.
This is such a worry for most of us LBS, have we shown too much of moving on, that they then give up? I have always worried about going dark. It was needed and advised, but what is the only choice?

Originally Posted By: Fartiltre
W and sit is on my mind but the thoughts are changing. I have found myself wondering a few times today whether I want to R. I do, but I am also realizing how long and hard this road will be if it is ever to happen!

Yep, been on my mind for a few days also.

Originally Posted By: Fartiltre
I also believe that the WAS needs to think that the LBS has lost interest and moved on. This is needed for them to start thinking “WTF, is going on around me?”.
sometimes I even wonder if W has a place here.
Yep, again same thoughts in my mind. How could I have the W back with me again. After so long, and so many different things to learn about her, is it easier to move on now?

But then again, our sitches are different. My W is in an affair with another woman, so all my replies above may not make sense, or maybe they do. Who knows anymore?


ME:51 W:46
M:25
S:22, S:20
Divorced 16/9/15
BD 10/12
W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12.
Dark since 6/13
I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.