I have a logistical question. How do those of you with kids manage GAL activities outside of the house or go out without telling H/W where you are going to be mysterious?? My schedule has always revolved around s. With no child care help in evening, if I am not at work I am with him.

Anything I do for myself (gym IC shopping) happens on the 1 or 2 days I am off during week while S is in school. H is responsible for S on the 2 or 3 nights I work till 10.

At this point I can't even get H to commit to what days he can be with S over winter break. I cannot imagine getting him to sit down and do a weekly schedule so I have me time.

I didn't mean this to sound whiney. I really am curious how other parents have done this.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15