And I just keep going...

[25yearsmlc]

I think the apologies are easy to categorize but we overlook the Path they can take. Like our growth and progress, theirs is not linear. Their realizations may lead to regret and that may lead to an apology, but it may take a year or 5, to realize the full extent of our mistakes or their impact, let alone to express our regret to the right parties...let alone that would suffice to them...

Like forgiveness, we can "conceive" of an idea, and then work on it, and then really truly feel it, and then later give birth to it in new ways of reacting or behaving. Lots of steps.

I don't see any selfish side to KG's hubby apologizing.

Oh sure It's not a full fledged "I'm all about awareness" deal, for sure. But he's beginning to wake up...

Not sure how brave he is in the awakening, and how much he is ever going to be willing to change...all that remains to be seen.

But I don't doubt he means well. I don't think it's coming from a selfish place.
In my opinion, the time for manipulation is over, OR not even here yet...


So KG, I don't see a reason for you to change your course of action (b/c frankly, it's working when we remind ourselves that the main goal of our work here is OUR work, and yours IS succeeding b/c you are becoming your better/best self and you are feeling more contentment...

not always, not consistently, but yes MORE...)

So I DO see reason for a bit of hope for improved relations as coparents...and for now that's probably the best we can hope for. Really, it is not a small thing.

um, Down the road, who knows? I would not spend energy on that now.

We don't know a thing about OW and your h, and that's OKAY.

We don't know about his work or salary...(though you could find out if you wanted to enough),

B/C what really matters is YOUR LIFE and how YOU ARE DOING
and from what you tell us here, you're moving forward. Like you should.


AND KG

Let's laugh together soon!