She is feeling that way because she is waffling. She is fence sitting. She is at a crossroad and has no idea which way to go.
Regardless of if you felt you had been funny before, she did not... Was a good chance to say something positive in your favor.. "Well, W, I am looking into other sides of me... We could use more humor" or something along those lines. Maybe her comment was an attempt at being funny...
As things drew closer to BD, there was certainly less humor in our R, but I often made her laugh through bad jokes or puns. She is still exhibiting selective memory. I did respond with humor by reminding her how she responded to many of my terrible puns.
Originally Posted By: MrCAS
As far as "crap" goes... You could be possibly reading too much into that. I use that word a lot. Crap is stuff. Crap doesn't always mean something fecal in manner.
I don't think she meant it in a fecal manner. But she was minimizing by suggesting we had "talked." It was a lecture. One she has said so often it just seems rehearsed. We have not really talked. Either before BD to address her concerns or since.
Originally Posted By: MrCAS
This is a point where we are all told to not have expectations. Expectations that do not live up to out thoughts lead to disappointment.
This is a little set back. Nothing more.
I hope you are right. Her words often waffle, but her actions seem to all move in one direction. I don't believe she has taken any actions that would suggest backing off from D.
I will certainly ask my TC, but what do I do? I feel like limited contact would just be more of the same. Only listening to her vent about work or about us is more of the same. What do I do to change the dynamic?
