Good for you. Yes the coaches can sure help validating, I can't recommend them highly enough. I found I related to just about everything that was said to me. Glad you got some clarify with regards to the same sex relationship. I was questioning in my mind about how I would handle it.
You are doing great, and not long to go now. Yippee!
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Each day, I have more things done ready for the move. While I cannot do much in the way of packing, I have been doing a lot of changing address stuff. Still haven't received anything from the solicitors, good/bad who knows anymore. Doesn't change anything anyway. Staff christmas party next Friday week. Box trailer and jet ski get taken to the transport company next week. Fridge gets turned off and defrosted next weekend also. Fifteen days left. Yippee and woohoo.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
I remember when we moved up here, it was on the 20th December. When I wrote my Christmas cards, I included my new address so that at least I had some cards to put up at my new address instead of waiting for the mail to redirect them. I was so organised that year, I couldn't believe myself, lol. It's exciting moving, isn't it? Especially when it's somewhere you want to move to
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Had one of those moments where something lights up in your head. The W spend time trying to get me diagnosed with depression, on anti-depressants and then for me to apply to leave early last year, back to the city. All this was done just before BD and after BD. I declined going back to the city, as much as I wanted to, because I wanted to fight for the marriage. But my lit up moment was, the W wanted me gone, it seems to be the way she can deal with the separation. So in the beginning when I was around her more, texting her more etc. I got more in return: replies, coffee time etc. So by ignoring her, going dark and not texting: is it making it easier for her to go about doing her stuff without the worries of the separation?
In saying all that, I cannot do anything different, the coach doesn't suggest anything different and I don't think anything different would help now anyway.
It was just one of those thoughts that enter our minds at different times. It didn't or hasn't sent me on a downhill rollercoaster ride.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
We all have those thoughts from time to time I've been reading a book called brokenheart on hold and in it there was a bit about her H saying they've been living as friends for the past 4 years and I thought yep he said that! I've also started to go back to when he first started MLC and realised it was about a few months before BD. I didn't know what MLC was before then. I was thinking about my friend earlier and thought of you. She got married, they had a little boy and then he told her he wanted a sex change. He's now called Julie! I was thinking of you because I thought at least your W doesn't want to be a man, lol.
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
Thanks TTD180, I don't know whether to laugh or cry about the sex change. I still think my W is the female of the relationship.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Well just texted the SIL a large message: advising I will not longer pay board for my S19 to stay at her house anymore. I advised I appreciated all the effort she has put in looking after both my boys over the last 3 years (while up in the country), but since my son has free accommodation he can take up (if he chooses), then no more paying board. Lets see what kind of a reply I get back, if I even do.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
Well done You're moving forward and getting things in order for your move. Just a thought, have you asked S19 if he wants to live with you?
H47 me48 T22 M21 S20 - Got high functioning autism 3/2000 H admits to OW and moves out to live with her 11/2000 H moves back home 2/4/13 H moves out H tells me he wants D 6/13, but now he can't afford to!
