Hi Tiger,

I'm caught up on your sitch now and I have to say that you are one amazing woman! I don't know how you manage with things the way they are. I've done it both ways (unfortunately) with him home all the time and with him away most of the time. (I actually prefer the away most of the time - gives me a break from the tension.) I can't imagine what it would be like to have him walk out the door every night knowing where he is going and what he is doing.

I think we all blow once in awhile. I used to do it through emails since he isn't here. LOL

In a lot of ways, your H seems to be like mine regarding making the final move. It's like we are home base and they just can't quite let go of that. I try to look at it as a positive, but it's really tough to let that door remain open and not feel like you are being used.

The beard thing - my H had a nice, closely shaven beard that I loved, but he shaved it off. There was too much gray in it for his taste and his skank is much younger.

By the way, I haven't had a good belly laugh in quite some time, but I cracked up when I read twinkle twat, especially since you said it to him! I'm going to keep that one in mind - I may have a chance to use it someday (although, I hope not.)

They push boundaries and they push buttons and we are always on guard not to fall for it. You are doing such a great job and are inspiration to a lot of us.


Me: 59 and holding
H: :53
Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown
M: 19
T: 23
BD: 9-23-2013