WR, If you don't want him to know where you are or what you are a doing, block him on FB. That's got to be the only place he's getting his info...but maybe he is chatting up others and they don't realize it's none of his business and tell him.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I don't know who else he would be talking to that talks to both of us.....he's cut everybody out pretty much.
Do you think it's odd he's asking about where I am, so blatantly, to the boys? I thought he didn't care! and to say "S's" name just like that? Was talking to my tenant and he said that he probably saw the profile pic of me (I look pretty good in it) and is upset I seem to be having fun and a life. Said he wants me to stay home and be sad and a good girl.......told me I need to start dating. LOL well, I'm not ready to go there, but I thought it was funny
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
WR, Your neighbor is partially right about everything but the dating. I don't think I'd even think about that until everything is resolved/settled and you've healed a bit. But, I do think that your profile has set your h a twitter and wants to know what you are doing and w/whom. Your sons have to learn to keep your whereabouts "mum", as it is no longer your h's business where you are...after all, do you know where your h is all of the time? The street is a two way street these days...so let's hope he won't questioned your sons again.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Maybe just some casual dates I was thinking. The next couple of months. It would be nice and I've never really done that before. This could take forever and I'm lonely. It would be nice just to have a meal or go for a walk with a man. Nothing physical, I'm not ready for that with anyone other than H.
Good, let him wonder what I'm doing. I have NO CLUE as to what he does. I font know what else to tell the boys I feel like a broken record.
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
well, another barrier down for H, he messaged me on a Sunday!! hahahaha that's a new one!
Wants to know how I want to do Christmas presents the kids. He's asks them for a list but doesn't want us to buy the "same items obviously"
I answered I was getting them clothes and essentials like always. That I was trying to see about the big gift.
he responded with one of the gifts S19 asked for (S19 has told me he has asked dad for the more expensive gifts....let him get them is what he said) He said S14 hasn't given him a list yet (I have a list though and have for a few weeks) He went on to say they said they would get him a list today.
I responded with I wasn't sure what they said to him about presents.
What does he want? to do do joint gifts? for me to give him ideas? How about this H why don't you give me my child support so your kids can continue to eat without my parent's bringing me groceries?!?!? Or so I can pay the mortgage without working all hours day and night and be home as a mother with them?!?!?! If you have an actual question why don't you just ask it and stop playing these round about way question sessions with me?!?!?!!
Can you tell I worked late last night and have no interest in games with him today? I was at his work yesterday as well, he was there too, we never saw each other but under the same roof was something. hahahaha
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
WR, He was fishing around for one of two things: 1) to see what you have planned to purchase and if you had a list; and 2) he might have been hoping that you would be willing to go in on some of the big ticket/expensive items. He will just have to wait for the lists from the boys and go from there. Be sure to tell them to make sure that his list is a bit different from the one that they may have given you. Thus...no duplicates.
Your h doesn't realize just how much you've changed since he left. He still thinks that you are right where he left you when he boarded the Mother Ship. Poor man, he's in for a rude awakening sooner than he thinks.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Oh I'm fairly certain he thought I would do it, like always!, or at least tell him what the boys have told me. Today he messaged S19 to compose an email for both him and his brother of stuff they want. I said to s19 he's wanting you to organize your brother. Not your job! You give your dad your list and let him figure it out with your brother. S19 said that S14 hasn't given him one yet and I said then your dad may have to try harder.
I think he's beginning to understand Job. I get a lot more messages now then I ever did and and I'm seemingly very happy, and attractive if other's comments count for anything, while he lives in his barren basement suite doing nothing.
This is what he wants and I hope it makes him happy! There are days I cry and wish I had him back but, for the most part, I'm enjoying not having anyone to answer to anymore. No one to try and guage their mood and watching what I have to say so as not to get into an argument.
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
This is what he wants and I hope it makes him happy! There are days I cry and wish I had him back but, for the most part, I'm enjoying not having anyone to answer to anymore. No one to try and guage their mood and watching what I have to say so as not to get into an argument.
This is exactly how I feel Rosa. I no longer feel like I have to watch everything I say and do and I don't have to wait for him to decide what he wants! Kind of a cool feeling to allow myself to release from that!!!
Me:49 H:47 S: 16 T:27 M:25 My EA: 2001 His PA: 10/2007, 6/2013 Separated, but H still in house
Find your Shambala: a place of peace and happiness.
I'm beginning to see how stressful life was with H for the last couple of years. As he sunk deeper into his depression and MLC he was unbearable I miss companionship. Someone to share with. ML, but, living with someone so miserable is not good either
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
Still no word from H's lawyer about the child support, it's been a week since my lawyer sent the email, and phone call, saying it was urgent. I guess they don't feel the need to take care of my kids.
On the news last night they profiled a woman who's owed $350,000 in child support and is dying from cancer. Living on welfare and her parent's support. Then I see all these other people comment on how they don't get their child support either and I started freaking out. What if the judge sides with h next week? Says yeah, you're broke don't worry about it!
Just found out I'm off work for five days too......I have some Christmas orders to fill but I was hoping to make that money on top of my wage. The event designer is slow and doesn't need my help right now. Uggggg
M 16 T 20 M 41 H 39 S 19 S 15 Bomb drop April 4; Moved out April 13 D started-full force ----------------------- Dancing through the fire Cause I am a champion and you’re gonna hear me ROAR
