Surviving Infidelity

[2chiquitos]

Hi bugsy!
It was painful. I'm much better. As I said before it took me a full day to recover. I went to my mtgs but find it difficult to share on these things because sometimes the suggestions are a bit different from my IC. Al Anon is great for me and helping me heal from all my issues. When it comes to recovering from the infidelity, I find better advice from IC or After the Affair book.

Last night H went on about how we should plan a family trip somewhere on the East coast. He was going on about it and asked me what I thought. I said I don't know maybe if we started to save money for it. He continued on and said, what do you think? I said, maybe as the time gets closer I'll get excited about it. He continued on. Finally, I knew what bugged me about this talk. I said, (in a kind and loving way) Honestly, I have a hard time thinking about going on a trip because I still hold a lot of resentment.

It was late. He said, I'm going to go check on the kids (he never does this). And stayed in their room. Kids were asleep so I assume he lay down with them. I went to bed.

I kept thinking, did I say something wrong? I don't think so. These are the consequences of his actions. I didn't say it to make him feel bad. In fact, I said it cuz the conversation made me feel uncomfortable and I'm not ready for it. I would love to go on a trip some day but not in the near future. I should tell him the last two sent...