It is great that your H is noticing these changes. Of course he is going to be upset by them. He has wanted you to do this for how long, and you didn't do it. And NOW you do it? Of course he is upset. First of all, because it means he didn't have to be so miserable for so long (but seemed more like your choice, maybe?), and second, because at this point he has gotten himself so far in his decision to be done with you, and now you are making it confusing. Your job now is to keep it up so that he sees that the changes are permanent and not just a ploy to get him back.
What did you say to your H when he asked why you waited until now?
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
