Hi JG thanks for your thoughts I read your thread too.. any advice I can get except my own random out of control thoughts is a help
You are right in that he thinks he has probably said he needs space and the OW well that just makes it even more difficult to connect with him at any level I am doing better within myself..am better at controlling my " make up a story about what he is doing thoughts" better at hoping so much this will end that I start to feel that it has.. keep saying patience..am developing patience..
so he has a lot of space..so do I!
My coach said to keep some mid week contact and we have , up until now spoken on the weekends..
then
I wonder about the contact .. I jump to the wrong conclusion on every friendly word.. know I shouldn't but...
I talked to a friend last night and that helped.. sharing a little with people really does help
and I love the virtual cup of tea..just what I needed and you are right.. this is going to take a long time and I need to put my natural reactions to one side.. because they are all wrong. I remember Melissa saying she missed the days when she did not have to over think every interaction.. I totally agree. The question is am I working on myself.. I try to.. I certainly am calmer..
i also miss the days when life was safe and secure I knew ( or thought I knew) where it was heading.. Now i don't even know if it will be the dog and I for Christmas lunch or the 3 of us..
