Accepting the Confusion - It is what it is Part 5

[2Times2Many]

He is playing some serious head games with me…and I don’t want to be a doormat…

My h behaves like this, too. Whenever we disagree or argue, usually because I have backslid on something, he is a master at turning things around to be my fault. It sounds like that is pretty common in MLCer's. And, they are head games.

H will threaten to move the rest of his belongings out of the house, find an apartment, etc. But he never does. He did leave one night (I did not try to stop him), spent the night on the couch in the office and came back the next morning complaining about lack of sleep and trying to bathe in the sink.

I usually just let this stuff die and not bring it up again. If he does, I just listen to him, validate his feelings and I don't apologize. In most cases, he is the one who flew off the handle and got mean and I figure he is the one who should apologize. Sometimes, he actually does.

I just try to remind myself that they are in a lot of pain and they have to have a release and guess who gets the brunt of it? I also try to remind myself not to believe what they say.

It sounds like you are doing a great job. We all backslide now and then. Hang in there.

2T2T