on the edge pt 2

[dingo]

I ended up going to her family's house for thanksgiving. We had a pretty ok ride out - I helped her set up a new cell phone and we had some light conversation. The holiday was great with her family but she was a little bit distant. I didn't let that bother me and enjoyed myself with the rest of her family. Yesterday we spent time at her uncles and it was more of the same. Great time with everyone else but she was just a bit strange. Its hard to explain but she treated me like we were just really good friends would be the best way to describe it. Not a lot of touching or closeness.

That evening, she went out with a couple of high school girlfriends and I went out for a couple of drinks with her sister and friends. She came and met us out after she was done with dinner and we had a fun time until we got back to her dad's house.

She decided she didn't like that I was having fun with her family and went out with her sister while she is trying to figure out what is going to happen with us. She accused me of coming out here and putting on a show for her. I assured her that it wasn't the case. then she started talking about how she was moving out and how we need to get a divorce because she can't be trusted. She admitted that she had called the om for a few minutes earlier in the evening and said she is just having a lot of trouble sticking to her no contact. She showed me the call log and it was a 5 minute call presumably just to say happy thanksgiving. It got a little messy after that with her saying a bunch of conflicting statements about her feelings and her hopes for us. She got frustrated with me again but I listened mostly but did tell her that a separation without a commitment to no contact would not work for me.

She agreed to it -again - and said she had looked into another counselor to help her maintain it. I offered up some of my sessions here that I still have and after some discussion, she told me I can give her the phone number.

What hasn't changed is her desire to move out, although I did find out that she hasn't signed the lease yet. Supposedly that will happen tomorrow. She is still obviously a mess of emotions and is less further along than I thought.