And what's physical platonic? Sounds almost Clintonian.
It sounds like he already sees you in a fairly positive way, though he probably still doesn't understand the changes you've made in yourself. But I'm sure you'd agree that his biggest problem is that he has to "believe in himself".
As I understand it, the typical MLC guy is suddenly worried if he's still got what it takes to attract new women. He might be worried if he can be turned on by new women and function. I say that because he says he's not attracted to you -- perhaps he's worried if he can be attracted to others too. Maybe he's worried about a drop in his libido generally? He might be looking at the likely time he has left in his life, and it might suddenly seem a lot shorter than what he was assuming. I think that can happen when you live life without doing new and exciting things in your marriage and all the years just blend together without any distinctive memories to mark the time.
I think a lot of marriages would do better if both partners took an attitude that they are to some degree still competing with all the other available people out there. Too many people just take their partner for granted. Now that they're married, they no longer feel they have to worry at all about their partner finding someone else. Marriage is not a prison.
