Interesting discussion and perspectives, especially your realization (don't think it's new)of how your H's anxiety drives him.
I used to get weirded out, OK...extremely anxious, when people I was with ordered things other than what was on the menu, had special requests, sent food back...mortified, so often I would try to somehow control the situation to decrease my bad feelings.
I've learned a lot from those people asking for what they wanted as if they deserved it. Imagine that, you can ask for what you want, get it and there is no test as to whether you are deserving of it or not.
These discussions can bring up interesting things.
The whole Starbucks thing still eludes me, the rare times I go I'm the dork who orders medium black coffee.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
