I tried that the last time he was home.. steeled myself to not ask questions ( that is controlling) made myself not ask about his plans or relationship talk ( 37 steps advice) practiced validating to myself so it was more natural when I would use it for him
I was ready and also 180 becuae I use to drive all the conversations
so what happened
NOTHING
we walked the dog, cooked and ate, watched T V talked about the week a ver ylittle
and generally felt uncomfortable with each other...
then he left..
Laterby telephone I commented that he seemed rather stressed. he said that was not the impression he meant to give
so that did not work really he said I was pretending everything was normal and we need to talk he said we could talk today when I was in his town ( though I was not welcome to his apartment) then organsied to not be there today... so is he anxious to talk or isn't he ? Am I anxious to talk.. well I certainly don't want a final conversation that finishes us but then maybe he thinks we have had that conversation.. I am really confused.. and have no plan- except to clean the kitchen! Oh happy saturday
