One of the things I find the hardest is the way my wife has completely shut her self off from me and does not want to talk to me or even be in the same room as me unless absolutely necessary. I don't know how she can be like that so easily after 14 years together.
I'm by no means an expert, in fact I stay behind the scenes keeping up with other peoples Sitch's but the quote above I can relate to. It's like a switch has been flicked and all of a sudden your both strangers. Before you both S your W was done with your M the walls were well and truely up and she was just getting certain things in place and as soon as they were in place she could then BD.
You will only see improvement when you GAL, Detach and follow Sandi's rules. The M as you know it is dead, your on your own now and only by doing the above, by showing your W that you are moving forward with/without her will she start to soften and bring the walls down brick by brick.
This is my experience and I'm nearly 14 months since BD. My W has never mentioned D so at the moment I'm being the best Dad the kids could wish for because that's the only thing I can control.
One last thing, be friendly and upbeat towards your W but never bring up R or M talk. Let her do that.
Do what works!
LJC
M - 37 W - 35 T - 11 M - 5.5 SD13 D10 S4 ILYBINILWY 15 Oct '12 Moved out 7 Dec 12 At present - Being the best dad i can be.
