She's moving most of her stuff tomorrow morning. I offered up my truck and if she wants my help I told her I would.
I'm finding she's getting a lot better at bouncing back from setbacks. Today we were back to normal from the other night. Texting random things throughout the day. I made dinner for her tonight. We went late night shopping for random things. I picked up a couple more Xmas gifts for my son and she got some last minute stuff for her apartment.
She did more packing tonight which was heartbreaking but I kept my happy face on. Afterwards I spent a good hour or two listening to her talk about work, her friends, her troubles etc. I think I did a good job of validating. But I knew I could do a better job. There were a few things that I had troubles validating. Ie. she's pissed at her friend's boyfriend's friend. He was supposed to lend her his truck but he wanted alcohol for his troubles. She was upset that he wanted that. I validated as best as I knew how but I think I could've done a better job. I totally agree that he deserves some booze for his troubles but I validated as best as I could. Which led me to doing some research on validating when you don't agree. I actually learned some important stuff. If anybody wants to discuss it(I know some people out there are having troubles validating while disagreeing), I'm up for relaying what I learned.
I'm just glad she's still open to talking about her daily troubles. She knows I'm the one person she can count on to listen to her. And with my new knowledge of validating I'm looking forward to hearing her rants about her job/friends/family.
This weekend will be tough, but I'm confident i'll be ok. The few weeks after she moves out will be hard, but I have to remain calm.
Any suggestions on how to handle the next few weeks? My plan is to stick with what I'm doing. Stay happy, be there for her, refrain from arguments, invite her for dinner/going out but have zero expectations, and enjoy every minute I get with my son.
Me-35 Com law-28 S-3 T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu 1st bu- 2/2012 Rec-4/2013 2nd bu-10/2013 IC-2 yrs(anger issues) MC- 5 mnths-fail OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14 New OM ~10/4/14
