Exactly...I think the idea of not trying to come up with that right word or reason that may make him clue in makes me feel useless. As long as I have been going through this I know this is wrong! I'm such a weak person. I hate it. I don't know why I can't be stronger.
If these habits or behavior patterns were easy to break, then they wouldn't be the actual problem.
I would consider talking to a therapist. Not a marriage counselor, but someone for you. Who can help you identify the issues you need to work on and try to help you with them.
Originally Posted By: Lll54
I kind of think 4 years ago when he dropped the last bomb and actually left was his "mistake" and sure he learned from it. For four years....and here we are again
Then I would suggest that he really didn't learn from his mistake. He may have wanted to come back and work on the relationship, but it sounds like you two didn't learn everything you needed to, so you slid into old habits again, which rekindled the same frustrations.
Like I said a few months ago when this started again—you thought that your marriage was "fixed" after the last crisis, but now you I hope guys see that it's not a one-time thing; that there can always be challenges in front of you.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
