Wow job you remember so much! That means alot to me! Lol Well glad to report he still has no cell phone, but I now have cell phones for me and the girls. He can still text them via wi fi only but that's it. Now that he's quit texting me and now has moved out of town, the freedom I feel is amazing.
Thank you for the Thanksgiving wishes! I spent it working but having a wonderful Turkey lunch with my extended family at work. Then I got the entire afternoon and evening to myself because the girls were with their father. They will be back home today in a few hours. But I really enjoyed the quiet down time to myself. I really treasure my alone time because it's the time I recharge my batteries and have time for me. So I lived it up last night doing whatever I wanted.
As always thanks for your insights and advice. I couldn't agree with you more in regards to how XH is looking at this life at this time. His choices have given him consequences that.... dare I say.... ARE NOT WHAT HE EXPECTED THEM TO BE??? That is so like him to act like a buffoon and then turn around and be mad about it and try to blame it on something or someone. Lol. That got so old, so long ago. I mean the things he's pulled over the last year have just been asinine and down right mind boggling they're so stupid. I mean I don't know if the man could think his way out of a paper bag at this point.
I got word from D11 that she got a neat toy for her birthday from her father BUT SHE'S NOT ALLOWED TO BRING IT HOME. Yes, XH loves to give gifts, especially the ones that the girls really want, then turn around and say " now, you can't take it home. It has to stay here with me! It will get ruined if you take it home!"
I got annoyed for about 5 minutes then realized that there's nothing to get upset about. The girls know this is what he does and they don't even let it bother them either. I feel it's a way to keep control over the girls and honestly a pathetic way to bait them to want to come to stay with him. They will miss their toys and therefore want to go play with their toys, at his house. So he thinks.
To be honest, there's an element of me that feels sorry for XH because of the way his daughters see him. Well maybe I don't feel sorry for him, but I feel sad about it. Their maturity levels have surpassed his by leaps and bounds in just the last year. They know what he's like, the games he plays, and they know how to deal with him! And what's even better, is they don't play games back! If they feel he's not being fair, they address it and talk directly to him about it! They still stick together and still won't stay over at his place without the other. That makes me sad for my girls. But I realize that is no one's fault but his very own. We didn't ask for this or make him sling shot around the moon and lose his mind into MLC psychosis. It's just what's happened, and all we can do is accept it and move forward. I just want the best for my girls and it saddens me that their father is so unstable.
My new relationship with my new guy gets stronger with each passing day.No worries job, we're not making those exes the foundation of our relationship, ha ha! I guess if I could best describe it, it's almost as if we can look back and see how bad things were for each of us, and that makes us just so much more appreciative of one another! Our relationship is a long distance one, he lives 2 hours away. But he comes down every other weekend, usually when the girls are with their father. WE are now transitioning to them being here when he is here. We waited 7 months to do that. The girls are warming up to him, slowly but surely. BF and I have talked about the transition many times. BF is kind, but not pushy with them and is giving them their space. BF had two girls by the time he was 18. They are now in their early 20's and he's already a grandfather! It helps to have someone understand how dramatic it is raising two young women! Lol. He's been a support to me just by understanding what it's like to go through this. He raised his girls primarily by himself and with the help of his XW's parents, and his mother. And how he raised his girls and handled their divorce is really the same way Im doing it. We have very similar parenting styles. And that's not scratching the surface. To say we click is an understatement.
