I don't really get needing a month either. It's pretty painful for me, actually.
I'd love more input on that.
My therapist says it's crazy but she also understands I haven't come this far to throw in the towel over a month. That as long as I hold strong on the month and don't keep giving him, "a few more days" it is OK.
His therapist says of course he is having trouble ending it, he's human, he has emotionally invested in her for a year. But he still needs to rip off the band aid and do it.
That said, the clock is ticking and he hasn't done it yet. and seeing how much trouble he's having makes me wonder if when and if he does do it he's just going to be miserable and missing her for the next year. Or if he really wants to stay married. He now says he does but he doesn't seem too excited about it since he's still with her.
and seeing how much trouble he's having makes me wonder if when and if he does do it he's just going to be miserable and missing her for the next year. Or if he really wants to stay married. He now says he does but he doesn't seem too excited about it since he's still with her. 