It's Not Over 'Till It's Over

[Fight4MyWife]

Got a lot of mixed emotions & thoughts going on at the moment.

One of the things I find the hardest is the way my wife has completely shut her self off from me and does not want to talk to me or even be in the same room as me unless absolutely necessary. I don't know how she can be like that so easily after 14 years together.


When I read through these forums & posts, I see other people who are separated etc but they still go round and put the kids to bed and do things as a family. I feel so envious of this, I would love to do things as a family, even just for the sake of my son. On bonfire night I took my son to see the fireworks & my wife went to the same thing, but she would not go together. I had to meet her at the gates afterwards to hand my son over, it just seems so weird why we couldn't even stand together. I feel like saying something to her about how lots of other people seem to still do things together.

I recently received a report through the post of the assessment social services did on my son to ensure he was safe after our breakup, as I had been arrested for holding my wife's wrists and preventing her from leaving. The whole thing is blown out of proportion & exaggerated & makes me out to be somebody I most certainly am not. Lots of it is blatant lies. I'm not sure if my wife has purposely exaggerated and made things to be worse than they are to gain an advantage in some way or if through her depression & negative outlook she has actually become to believe this as reality, when it's not. I know I am supposed to be validating her feelings but I really feel like pointing out that these things are not true and defending myself. If we go to mediation or court I will have to defend myself.

On a more positive note, before our breakup my wife would often pop in to see me at work with our son, but she hasn't done since our separation. Last week she mentioned getting my sons haircut & I suggested casually that she should pop in to see me sometime & could take him to the hairdresser near by. Well today my wife & son came to see me at work and she took him to get his haircut. This is a good baby step right?