I still can't understand if there is a future here. I know all the right advice, GAL, go ahead with myself, but he's here, it's not easy to ignore, and I am not fully detached from someone I am M too and living with.
How can you be? Not possible, I say.
I'm impressed you've stood as long as you have. That's some love there. Maybe a lesson for some of us.
The question in my mind is how badly do you want to save this M, and how long can you do the status quo without losing yourself?
Sometimes it seems to me the cost of waiting some of these MLC'ers out can simply be too high. Plenty of the vets here have themselves pulled the plug on their M's. We should never be willing to give up ourselves and who we are to save a M. That just won't work long term.
The pain of staying vs pain of ending it. Tough stuff, I know! I wish there was a definitive answer for all of us.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
