Some people get so wrapped up in trying to figure out what to say or do to get what they want out of their spouses that they forget what it's like to be honest with them. Because honesty is scary; you are opening yourself up to someone you love, and if they react badly then it's easy to accept that as a criticism or rejection of yourself.
Exactly...I think the idea of not trying to come up with that right word or reason that may make him clue in makes me feel useless. As long as I have been going through this I know this is wrong! I'm such a weak person. I hate it. I don't know why I can't be stronger.
I would love to re-read DB for more pointers but I through it out after our last reconciliation because our marriage was amazing. I must have jinxed myself.
Originally Posted By: TrentC
But real life doesn't work that way. He might actually have to make that big mistake—and maybe other mistakes as well—before he recognizes the truth.
I kind of think 4 years ago when he dropped the last bomb and actually left was his "mistake" and sure he learned from it. For four years....and here we are again
Is it common for couples to go through this twice? And make it through twice?
M: 31 H: 29 Married: 6 yrs Children : 7yr old, 5yr old, 2yr old
Separated: Sept. '09 Moved Back In for wrong reasons: Nov. 30, 09 Recomitted to our Marriage: Jan. 25, 10 Threatening to leave again: July,14
