H and I had a fight last night, after we got home from his family’s Thanksgiving. I was pretty angry and accused H of having another affair.
This morning, I apologized but that started a whole new fight. H said he was leaving and packed the rest of his clothes that are still here. He said he’s leaving because I refuse to let things go and start over fresh.
Then, he said that if I showed him a sign that I’m “really” starting over, then, he’d consider staying.
I ended up burning the paper copies of texts that I had from the OW#1 (his idea). H then left to go pick up his paycheck but did not take his stuff with him.
Here’s the dilemma. I do NOT want a separation or divorce…but I am not sure what I need to do now. Just not say anything when he comes home? Tell him to leave if that will make him happy?
He is playing some serious head games with me…and I don’t want to be a doormat…but I also don’t want to do/say something that will make things worse.
I have NO idea what I should do next. Do/say nothing?
H did say that “love” has never been the problem but that he feels like we can never be happy, etc. He also said that he doesn’t “want” me anymore…and that I was just “that girl” he knocked up.
So, lots and lots of hurtful, mean, roller coaster MLC things being thrown around…he's been in a HUGE spewing, pouting mood since yesterday.
And, I’m not sure what to do next. I do NOT want him to move out...BUT I feel like he is just manipulating me. Advice???
