WR, His lawyer may not get in touch w/him until next week. They don't always drop what they are doing to contact their clients, but in fact the clients "take a number" so to speak. So, I would venture to say next week may be the lucky week for him to find out about the situation regarding money.
As for the sweaters. Yeah, they hated them when they lived w/us, but once the switch is flipped, they may like them. It's crazy...but they do tend to do the opposite in all areas once in crisis. I would be honest w/him when you do give him the sweaters and ties that your son has been using some of them for work. Let him decide whether son can keep them or not.
I'm glad you had fun last evening. Sorry you didn't win, but you had a good time and that's what counts. Now it is time to look towards the holidays and see what transpires on Friday, the 13th.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I'm pretty sure he has it. Everything has been done via email so it just gets forwarded. But, maybe not.
I'm working today and tomorrow and it really irks me he wants me to pack it up because he's too chicken to come into the house. Is there a way to say come in and get it yourself?? Or not worth it. I guess I should remember he asked for his winter coat last week too. Or can I "forget"?
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WR, Here's the deal...do you want him in the house packing? Do you want him in your space right now? If not, then pack up the sweaters and his coat and have them ready to give to him. I wouldn't be mean and "forget" his things.
It's your decision as to whether to have him come there and pack or not...you know how you would feel if your space was invaded. However, if you do allow him into the home, please be sure to put all of your papers, etc. in a safe place.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I guess it really bothers me he refuses to enter the house, like he'll get an infection, and that I'm stuck doing his bidding like the servant girl he messages when he needs stuff
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WR, His refusal to come into the home is a reminder of what he had. It reminds him that he had a good life, wife and family and yes, their were many happy times there. He can't face that reality right now. Just pack up all of his clothes and that way, he has no excuse for you to do any additional packing. BTW, the latest in luggage is the black trash bags and they are wonderful and you can get a whole lot of stuff in them. LOL!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hahahahaha. So far I've used a black garbage bag, cardboard boxes and his time is a large white styrofoam box.
I messaged him yesterday afternoon to let him know I would. He asked for his winter boots too. I told him S19 is using them and a few of the ties.
His response? What? Then I would like my sweaters and ties please Then He has work ties Then What boots is S19 wearing
I finally answer The winter boots (you have no other shoes here idiot!). We can't afford to buy him new boots
H. Which boots the tall boots Me there's only one pair H ok
Don't know what ok means but I allowed S19 to pick a few ties and the boots are staying. If he unpacks and asks I'll let h know he can talk to S19 about it.
Is it he can't face reality or he thinks he'll die if he walks in here?
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WR, If I were in your shoes, I would pack up everything in the way of clothing, things that your S19 can't wear or use, and have them ready for pick up when he comes. That way, he has no excuse to contact you or expect you to pack them up for him.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I'm pretty sure that's it. I had forgotten about the coat, it was in another closet, and honestly, thought he didn't want he sweaters or ties as he hates them! I knew about the boots but I can't afford another pair for S19 so sorry butter cup your son's feet are higher priority.
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WR, You are so right...your sons are the priority now. Of course, if your h gets desperate and needs boot, he can use the garbage bags for boots! LOL! They work well in case of an emergency and besides...he can purchase some new ties and boots w/the money he hasn't paid you for child support and your missing insurance check.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
hahahaha garbage bag boots!! This isn't the rest of canada garbage bag boots are fine for him!
Went out for dinner, my girlfriend treated me to a trendy new restaurant in the area, last night while the boys were out for movie night with H at his work. About 8:30 S19 calls me in a panic. "Has the mortgage gone through?" I get it out of him he's worried H is taking money from the mortgage account and it will bounce. I reassure him H has his personal acct at the same bank and that I'm fairly certain the mortgage has already gone through. OMG HE SHOULD NOT BE HAVING TO PHONE ME ABOUT THAT!!!! When I get home they're home and S19 says that S14 told H I was at work. Once again I slow him down and get the story that H picked up the boys at 3:30 and notice my van was not in the car port (he always picks them up in the back alley) anyway asks where I am and S14 blurts out (before he thought about it he said) that I was at work. H says "Oh she's working for S" HOW THE F DOES HE KNOW WHO I'M WORKING FOR!?!?!?!?! S19 quickly says "Oh just for this week she's doing a bar mitzvah at BCP" Which is where H's second job is and guess who's also working there today?!?! Thank God it's a 60,000 person stadium and he'll be on the field and I'll be in a corner on the level 3! Then when he drops off the boys, approx 10pm, he sees my van isn't in the drive way again and asks where I am and S19 says oh she must have parked in the front....he drives around front. Nothing is said apparently.
WHAT DOES HE WANT??? How does he know I'm working specifically for S?? There are A LOT of people I could be working with and he guesses her??? He's not talking to ANYONE that would know I'm working for her. (only a few friends and family know) Should I 'block" him on FB maybe? he's already blocked me. Why does he even care what I'm doing?
I did tell the boys AGAIN if dad asks where I am your only answer is "If you want to know where mom is please call her" I don't know what else to tell them
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