Ambivalent, Overall all, it sounds like it was a fairly nice family gathering for Thanksgiving.
Why in the world would you apologize to your oldest daughter? She's the one that was disrespectful to you, the family and your guest and she needs to apologize to all of your for her spoiled rotten outburst, or should I say temper tantrum. She was very selfish and rude and no matte what type of personality she has, it's no excuse for being rude. The right thing was to allow her to go upstairs and sulk about it and when she found out that people where not running up there to make her feel better, she came downstairs once again.
Your daughter is going to have a difficult time in the workforce if she doesn't get herself together and grow up and accept that the world does not revolve around her. From what you've posted, she sounds like she spoiled a bit and wants her way...not good and she's going to have issues w/relationships, both in the workforce and in her personal life if she doesn't change her ways. I'm sorry if I am being a bit harsh about your daughter, but she's got a serious issue w/respect.
I'm sure your h has some good memories to take w/him and I'm sure he will enjoy the leftovers.
Today is a new day and enjoy life as you know it. One holiday down and another one in 4 weeks. You can do this. I know you can.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
